TOLDOS 1996
In the Torah portion Toldos we learn how Rivka finally gets pregnant
after twenty years of trying. She has a very difficult
pregnancy. The Torah says, "And the children agitated within
her." Rashi explains, based on the Medrash, that the word
Eesrotzetsu really comes from the word to run. The Medrash says
that when she would pass a house of study Jacob would run to go out,
but when she would pass a house of idol worship Esau would eagerly jump
to run out to go there. The rabbis comment that when it comes to
doing good deeds, many times we act in a measured and orderly way, but
when it comes to doing misdeed, we passionately jump to do them.
The rabbis comment that when the Jewish people received the Torah they
even overslept and when the came to Mount Sinai they came in an orderly
way. However, when it came to demanding that Moshe send spies to the
land of Canaan, they all eagerly pressed forward upon him paying no
attention to rank or order.
The truth of the matter is that when it comes to doing good deeds, we
many times do them in a passionless way, but when it comes to doing
evil or questionable deeds, we do them with great gusto and
enthusiasm. It is true that when you hate somebody, you usually
hate them with a lot more energy than if you just like or love a
person. Somehow the negative qualities seem to attract greater
energy than the positive qualities. It is a lot easier to write a
check to go gambling in Las Vegas than it is to write a check to the
UJA or to our synagogue.
Based on this phenomenon, Rabbi Soloveitchik explains why the Talmud
says that a Baal Teshuva has a higher place in heaven than a person who
never sinned. A Baal Teshuva brings the great passions that he or
she previously used to pursue questionable goals and
brings them to bear on religious and positive goals. We need to have this enthusiasm and passion when we do good things.
Obviously, what we are dealing with in this Torah portion when we talk
about the boys in the womb is not en evil Esau and a good Jacob.
After all, the boys had not been born yet. They could not be held
culpable for anything until they were at least born. I am
reminded of the story they tell about a rabbi, a minister, and a priest
who were discussing when life begins. The priest said life begins at
the moment of conception, the minister said life begins at the moment
of birth, and the rabbi said life begins when your children have
graduated college. The boys in the womb represent the evil inclination
and the good inclination, the rabbis say. The evil inclination
represents man's passions. The rabbis also teach us that these
passions are not necessarily evil. They are absolutely necessary
for the world to continue.
That's why when G-d created the world, He said that the world was very
good. The rabbis explain that the word "very" refers to the evil
inclination. We know that without ambition and drive and sexual energy
the world could not continue. The rabbis tell the story about how
after the destruction of the first Temple, the Jewish people complained
to G-d saying, "G-d, it's Your fault we sinned. You gave us the
evil inclination." G-d said, "All right, I'll remove it."
He did. Nobody got married, no homes were built, nobody planted
their fields, etc. The Jewish people then asked that G-d restore
the evil inclination, and He did but not with such great force.
The Talmud also says there are three gifts that G-d gave man. One
was the evil inclination, the second was envy, and the third was mercy.
What the Talmud meant was that we can only make progress in this world
if we have ambition and drive and passion. There is nothing wrong
with passion as long as it is wedded to good and morality. That's
why Yaacov and Esau were twins. The idea was the good of Yaacov should
be wedded to the passion of Esau. Yaacov recognized that he
needed Esau. Unfortunately, Esau did not recognize that he needed
Yaacov.
In our day, too, we need the passion of people who return to Judaism or
who find Judaism. Many Jews who are born with Judaism and practice it
have succumbed to a passionless rote type of Judaism. This is
important, too, because it shows that they are very comfortable with
it, but it does not have the passion which will allow Judaism to
elevate our lives. As Rabbi Soloveitchik said, we must take the
passions which are usually associated with negative emotions and use
them positively. Perhaps that is why Yaacov sinned by tricking
his father and taking the blessing from his brother. This gave him an
insight into his own soul. It showed him what passion can do if
used negative. However, if passions are used positively, they can
elevate us. We must always have enthusiasm in all our
relationships. It is important that our synagogue exude passion
and enthusiasm moderated, of course, by good sense and morality.
The same thing is necessary in any relationship, especially a marriage
relationship. We should be passionate and enthusiastic about our
relationships while also exercising good sense and morality.
I am reminded of the story they tell about a man who was an efficiency
expert. He was giving a demonstration at a factory. One of
the workers asked him, "Do you also apply these techniques at
home?" He told the worker, "It is not a good idea." The worker
then asked him, "Have you ever done it?" He replied, "Yes, once I told
my wife as she was making breakfast that she could save a lot of time
making breakfast if she would take two or three things out of the
refrigerator at the same time." The worker asked, "Did it work? Did it
save time?" The man said, "Yes, it certainly did. It used to take my
wife twenty minutes to make breakfast and now it just takes me seven,"
It is important that we learn how to do good passionately and
enthusiastically. It is important that we always wed our passions to
good. If we do that, we can create wonderful relationships, wonderful
communities, and wonderful marriages so the Mashiach will come quickly
in our day. Amen.